PEI- Why do you need to make a decision right now? You are feeling down today. You are the only one that knows your H...but do not make a decision based on how you think your H feels or his actions.
Hon, any decisions I'm making are based solely on how I feel. Really. And I'm making some decisions because I am ready to make some decisions. Period. While some, ok many, disagree with some of the choices and decisions I'm making, everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I really do appreciate all of the thoughtfulness and concern. I really do. My thoughts on H are just observations, not justifications or rationalizations.
Originally Posted By: lolawar
From reading your thread..he doesn't appear to be a WAH..he appears to be confused. It doesn't appear that your H ever stopped seeing the OW...so when did he take the time to really think about his M? IMO-he hasn't.
I am truly sorry today is soo awful for you!! (hugs)
I'm not sure where you get the confusion, I can tell you that I base my WAH thoughts on our last 6 mos of conversation re the last 6-15 years, and then honest and careful reflection. And you're right, H has not stopped seeing OW, but he took the last 6 years to really think about our M. I appreciate your opinion, but what I'm discovering is that perhaps I don't do as good a job as I thought when it comes to conveying my thoughts and feelings.
Thanks for the hugs ... today is a hard day, but being down has nothing to do with the state of my M or any decisions I am making in relation to it.
Thanks again Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
