so hopefully you learned that being jealous gives the impression of:
I should have learned these lessons weeks ago from advice that dday, puppy, coach and others gave me. I'm trying, but it's a hell of a process. Everyone I know is really freaked out by how well I am handling (or seeming to handle anyway) all of this. My neighbors can't believe my positive attitude!
Thanks to all here for all of your wonderful advice. Without you guys/gals I would still be curled-up like a ball waiting to die. I am in a much better place now!