How To Tell The Kids

[DanF]

so hopefully you learned that being jealous gives the impression of:

I should have learned these lessons weeks ago from advice that dday, puppy, coach and others gave me. I'm trying, but it's a hell of a process. Everyone I know is really freaked out by how well I am handling (or seeming to handle anyway) all of this. My neighbors can't believe my positive attitude!

Thanks to all here for all of your wonderful advice. Without you guys/gals I would still be curled-up like a ball waiting to die. I am in a much better place now!

[robx]

so hopefully you learned that being jealous gives the impression of:

I should have learned these lessons weeks ago from advice that dday, puppy, coach and others gave me. I'm trying, but it's a hell of a process. Everyone I know is really freaked out by how well I am handling (or seeming to handle anyway) all of this. My neighbors can't believe my positive attitude!

Thanks to all here for all of your wonderful advice. Without you guys/gals I would still be curled-up like a ball waiting to die. I am in a much better place now!

that's called the "fetal position",
chicks think it's uber sexy when a guy does this and cries out loud...... NOT!

I'm glad you're learning ;-)

[Fightingforher]

DanF,

I'm making the same mistakes so don't feel bad. I want my W to know that I know she's having a PA. Unfortunately for my sitch my W has already checked out and I don't think there is anyway to repair what we've done.

The main thing is controlling our anger and insecurities and be great fathers to our kids. I found out this morning that W has moved on to OM2 and has gotten physical with him. I LOST IT!!!!!

Not sure why I lost it, she's free to do whatever she wants. I feel that while we are living together we should maintain some sort of respect for each other. I learned today that I can't control that and she's going to do what she wants when she wants.

It's so hard to put on a smile when W is around but I need to start doing that for my son. Not much advice i'm offering but I wanted to let you know that your not the only one who lets his emotions take over.

[robx]

have you asked her to move in with him yet?

[dday101798]

have you asked her to move in with him yet?

At this point, I would not and did not ask.

[DanF]

dday is BACK!!!!!

I thought I'd get a 2x4 from you. Did you have a nice day off? Do anything fun?

[robx]

well something has to change,
living with/sharing a home with a wife that wants to carry on a physical affair with another man is a bit of a deal breaker for me, she's free to live that kind of life.... elsewhere.

Living in the same home just for the sake of the kids makes no sense.

[PMA_Baby!]

I agree. I went through the same thing. We got a co-parenting schedule in place and both took turns sharing the house aka "nesting". On the days she had her I stayed w a friend. Just an idea.

PMA

[dday101798]

dday is BACK!!!!!

Never left, just sitting back, watching this unfold and dealing with my own quandries.

That said..............

As rob just said, DEALBREAKER, period. Do you feel comfortable with the fact YOUR WIFE comes home after being with OM and washes HIS FILTH off her? I sure as hell didn't. That is the UPMOST display of disrespect EVER. Pack her schitt and tell her to hit the road. Time to use those balls.

[DanF]

Don't have time now, but just got a note from OMW telling about all the shat that went down betweem W and OM after she read my e-mails the other night. Apparently she read more than she let on and now understands that there is OW2.

This is almost getting fun. Gotta run the kids to the dentist. Back later.