I think that I will have to put you into a group of mind readers who are on this forum.

You are probably right in the deciding I was going to be happy and in a sexually, emotionally satisfying relationship was a key step.

Although I would say that the other things allowed my wife an opportunity to change with me and for me to not fight with her, but instead make her feel loved and supported.

>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.