YOU are NOT a victim here. YOU CHOSE the current emotional risks. YOU CHOOSE whether or not to continue them. Are the potential payoffs worth risking the potential costs? YOUR CHOICE.
But, if you do CHOOSE to continue with Gabe, give yourself BOTH space to move forward. Not giving Gabe a chance to change and be a good guy makes this whole thing pointless. He may not do it. But, he most certainly won't if you don't give him a chance.
STOP these absolute negative statements. They are false and not helpful. Like, ALL HE WANTS is blah blah... He NEVER... There is NO WAY....
If you really believe those things, pack his stuff, put it on the front porch, and change your locks.
