You need to be in a place emotionally where you can say "I am ok with things going etiher way... I will be fine"
Once I DID that, thats when my wife actually started to turn around...
SDFoundGirl,
What was the "bomb" your husband dropped that helped you to turn around?
I personally believe that boundary enforcement is not necessary if you have respect. Because we would not do certain things and we would have "good" manners with that person we value.
Sure coming out of a near divorce with affair, there is going to have to be boundary enforcement and you show the person you aren't going to tolerate bad behaviors anymore.
