Making progress and reconnecting.....ayieee

[CPCajun]

the key is building anticipation and always leaving a woman
wanting more and not giving it all away...the gentle dance
of intimacy and seduction...it works...

I am....House keeping , small arange of flowers, a few hidden posted notes. Simple things that are contributing to a 180, 5LL or something I used to do as a LL to W.
I looked at the link. I am doing most of what is on there.

..if you were the
one who didn't show affection, etc. you need to do the
opposite. This is one of your most effective techniques,
Michele; doing the opposite of what comes naturally. For
me, this was a) speaking up when I didn't like something,
but doing it in a calm and reasoned voice, instead of
holding everything in for months and then losing it, which
was my normal way of relating; b) being more openly
affectionate c) praising my h for things he did, both small
and large; the positive results of this were seen most when
I continuously praised him for being such a wonderful
father; he became an even better dad; d) becoming much more
proud of my own career and involved in my own things rather
than focusing so much on him; and last but not least, e)
being much more sexually open, both in terms of frequency
and style for lack of a better word. This is me pretty much to a t.I am doing 180 on everything.

MANDATORY DO'S WHEN DIVORCE BUSTING
1. Be patient. Time is an assest even when it seems to be
killing you.
2. Listen carefully to what your spouse is REALLY saying to
you.
3. Learn quickly that anger is your enemy
4. Learn quickly to backoff, shut up and walk away when you
want to speak out.
5. Take care of yourself. Exercise, sleep, laugh, and focus
on all the other chances in your life that are not in
turmoil.
6. Be cool, strong, confident and speak softly.
7. Know that if you can do a 180, your smallest consistent
actions will be noticed much more than ANY words you can
say or write.
8. Read as much as you can on this subjectAm doing...


--Be loving in return, but NOT overly excited or
enthusiastic.
--Accept some invitations to spend time together, but not
all.
--Do not ask questions about your future together.
--Be vague when asked questions about the changes in you.
--Continue to be upbeat.
--Do not say, "I love you."
--Resist getting into conversations about your marriage.
--Beat your spouse to the punch when it comes time to leave
an activity.
W is almost always involving me in discusions in the future. Always talking with me as we are still involved together. This is confusing as all hell. Its as if this (D) isn't happening. I do follow the rest.

As for the I love you, its hard. It is second nature for me to say it. It slips alot....