The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

I have a question for WAW and those who have reconciled.

Is it normal for WAS to still be withdrawn (maybe not the word I am looking for) even after the WAS agrees to work on the marriage?

What I mean is, for example, over the past week I have initiated contact with W here and there, hugs, holding hands, and some touching. All of which has not been rejected (W has yet to initiate any contact). Just yesterday W and I hugged before she left for work and she kissed me on my cheek but this morning it felt like W did not want to hug at all and she gave me what I would call a pity hug and that was it. It is normal for WAS who have agree to work on the marriage to do these sort of things?

Also how long did it take or do you project it will take for W to start meeting emotional needs? When do you think it is OK to talk to W about my emotional needs, or at all?

I am doing my best to live in the moment. I have held back on many things so I do not pressure/pursue W. I don't want to blow this opportunity by expecting too much too soon and want to get insight from those who have come this far....