Cajun, what else are you going to do for her? What I mean to say, when are you going to do things for you?
BTW, Its way too early to give her the benefit of the doubt. Your "snooping" as you call it should just be more open. She can't deny your feelings at they are yours. She can only listen to it."
It sounds like you are doing everything to get her attention or approval. In fact, it should be the other way. That's not to say continue with the 180's. All the lovey dovey stuff isnt' always necessary. With good honest communication, you can achieve more.
Married 10 Together 13 ILYB 1/4/2010 Separated: 1/4/2010 Moved back in 1/28/2010 Reconciled 3/14/2010