Wife wants best of both worlds

[Cie la vie]

DW,

I feel for you. You've been taking some serious shots and I have to say handling it well. Being out of sorts now again with these kinds of revelations being dumped on you is perfectly reasonable.

still have not met the OM and really do not see a reason to do so but really not sure on this. I do not hate him, but I do hate what he has done and what he represents.

I feel the same way you do about the OM introduction. My original position on this was she must introduce the scumbag to me before the kids but I have no control over it. I'd be shocked if he hasn't meet my kids by now. I don't want anything to do with the guy. If my kids report back to me something negative than he will meet me.

My current relationship with the ex is probably worse than good. I do not like talking to her or being around her. She views this as me being mean...our persepctives are so different. I am still broken over the break-up of a family, while she is starting a new one. I am doing everything I can to be civil but it is still so dam hard being around her or even communicating with her via email.

I could simply cut and paste this to my thread unaltered. This is exactly how I feel.

Keep toughing it out. In time our lives will be good again.