I am going to take your advice, but the pessimist in me believes her wanting to feel safe and know that I am taking care of the small and important details is just for herself and her own peace of mind. Feeling any attraction or safe is probably much further down the list.
When my W dropped the bomb on me there were two statements she made that stuck with me:
1- "I want someone who puts me first!"
I have done this CONSISTENTLY for 5 months. I have dedicated myself to our kids, her needs and whatever I could do to ease the burden of raising twins.
2- "It is not in you to change!"
I have proven that it IS in me to change, and I have. And I know she has noticed it because when a T asked her if she noticed she admitted that she had. I basically take care of the cat, I am devoted to my kids, I have reordered my priorities and focus only on my family.
