Hrere's an interesting question (and I'm posting on my thread and Setting Free)
Is there a conflict betwee setting them free and going through the exposure stage?
It appears to me that exposing my W and OM will appear to be me seeking revenge/raetaliation. Somthing done out of hurt.
If I'm setting her free, why would I do anything at all?
Just let them wallow in their own mess.
To add my 2cents here: This is where a lot of people, I feel, get Dobson wrong. If you read Dobson thoroughly - enough of his works - there is no conflict between setting free and exposure, IMHO. Dobson repeatedly said there IS to be accountability! He fully believes family members and friends should stand up to an unfaithful spouse! Now: does he go into the specifics of exposure and all of that? Well...no, but you have to remember: his work on "tough love" was WAY earlier than all of this other stuff by Penny Tupy, et al.
Personally, I believe Dobson would fully support exposure along with setting free. Just because you set someone free does NOT mean that you don't have others show him/her what he/she is doing to their family (and to themselves).
At first glance it may seem 2 totally different approaches and maybe in the DB/DR MWD world it is, but not in the Dobson world.
