BTW, I do spank. Just feels wrong to be spanking (form of hitting) while telling son we don't hit.
Guess I misunderstood your post. A lot of the modern VP's say that you can't teach a child not to hit when you spanking them. If they understand "you" are the adult and have the authority over them and that they are being punished by receiving the spanking.....then that is different. (Strange how a small toddler understands the concept without be told all those words verbally.) You are not "hitting" them (or at least, should not hit them). God put the padding in the backend for a good reason...and that should be administered properly.
If time out works (and it does with certain issues) or if "grounding" them works (and that is what older children need), then fine. However, I don't think it is going to work very well to put them in time out b/c they hit a school official.
Anyway.....back to the M problems, has your W actual been diagnoised with MLC or is that what you think she has?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
