Exposed finally,,limbo land

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Did not contact her as said above, she TM me 'Are you home?' an hour later, I was, but was headed out the door to avoid her, and TM 'what’s up?' back. She said,’ I will put $xxx in our account for the bills as normal if you sign this (D)paper.' I believe that is extortion. I hate to think of it, but now she is f’ing with the money. Well, I said I would be back in an hour or so and she could try calling me, she didn’t, so I TM’d her and D14, ‘goodnight, etc’. I want to avoid signing until at least Monday, so I have the week to give to my L, as well as our state mandatory 90 waiting period starts at that point on D.

If she doesn’t put money in joint account I will need to adjust for it, but not much. I will not be able to cover mortgage very long (if at all) so I will just stop making payments. Oh well. I’m going to consult a bankruptcy attorney tomorrow I think.

After I said goodnight, she wanted to know when I was expecting to be with DD’s based on having next 2 days off, I said over night 2-3 nights, and with me during the day both days, and asked if she was interested in going to church on Sunday, when she said,’ No, you take girls with you, I will take them next Sunday(would be 1st time at church for her since she has been in A)’. I replied,’ No bad can come from going to church together.’ Her,’I will go by myself, thank you, since you stole my father’s heart.’ Silent pressure she is putting on herself, along with some from OM, seem to still be effective.

I’m still thinking that she thinks all of her pain will go away with a D, everyone will just forget about A and her other poor choices, everyone will fall in love with OM, and her life will be better than it ever has been.

As far as the comments, ‘Stealing my father’s heart’, and ‘What I did to you(A) was wrong, but you had no right to talk to my dad and ruin my relationship with him.’, should I rebut them with,’I didn't ruin anything, all I did is tell the truth to some one who cares deeply for DD’s, you, and me.’?

Thanks again for any input.