Not really too concerned if aunt goes the other way.

Both exposure and letting go are for my dignity and self respect.

I don't care about her anger. But if it's unnecessary and it draws out my divorce, then I should simply let go and get my life back.

As I said, her attitude and betrayal and selfish almost-pride in the A makes it very clear that she is toxic. I don't need that nor do I deserve that.

Exposure is less important to me even an hour after I said it.
But I'm certainly not going to just lay her and let her think I'm a wuss.

PLease tell me if I'm heading for trouble.