I mean, honestly, your H dumps you and your friend is ? chastising you for being "selfish"? Wow! This is the time your friends should be THERE for you!
You NEED to be selfish--this is not about becoming a "jerk", it's about learning WHO YOU ARE!
So that what your dad told you can be filtered through the "is that really who I am " filter, and...is that you? are you a whore? or does dad have some issue he is projecting??
This is YOUR time. Socrates said an unexamined life is not worth living. You need to "selfishly" take time and examin yourself here. Who are you and a better question is Who do you WANT to be?
