As much as you want to save someone from their own personal demons, you can't. You, me, your wife, anyone, as Gucci wrote, needs to come to the realization, "What did I do" or "What am I doing" then seek the help themselves.
Such the phrase "hit rock bottom"
Imagine yourself an alcholic or a drug addict. Your family can hound you day and night to quit your behaviours, but would you? could you? You can read about alot men in such a predictament on this site. You may know some in your own life that could not make the realization until the ultimatum had come and gone.
"What have I done? She is gone. She took the kids. She wont talk to me anymore."
If you would like to hear some stories for yourself go to an AA meeting or two. You may hear a few people say, "there was nothing anyone could do for me and it wasn't until they were gone did I realize what I did."
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Says current EA is over. They still exchange an email every once in a while, last time being 10 days ago.
That is an addiction. Almost like an alcholic saying they quit drinking then hiding beers in the rafters of the garage and drinking them warm after they tell their family they'll just be outside mowing the lawn. But worse, you are enabling this behavior by not doing anything!
Does she have family in Alaska she can stay with?
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Did you do as wise Gucci says and dump her?
Dump her. I like that phrase. But it doesnt always sit well with a lot of nay sayers, does it? In retrospect, I would define it
More like let them go so they can figure things out for themselves and make some choices that they need to make for their self. But also, realize there are also somethings you still need to learn about yourself. "Get Wise." So true.
