I rather thought there would be a "confrontation" this a.m. He wanted to "talk". Had his hands on his head and took a deep breath and asked me to write down all the things I wanted (material things) from the R. He said I could have the house and the property, he just wanted his sailplane and his Gmother's furniture. I said that's fine. He wanted it done today and I said, no, I'm going to take a bit of time doing this. So he said OK.
He is "so angry" about my going to the other side of the house and I validated that this must be hard. He didn't get ugly, and stayed pretty calm through the entire thing. He got up to leave saying he needed someone to talk to and I said as long as he stayed rational he could always talk to me. So he came back but it didn't last long--but I did get some more validation that he feels unloved and uncared for and feels "done".
I stayed calm, rational, validated, let him go. I feel this is rather inevitable. I don't think he truly is done at all--he was far too generous in all that he "gave" me. And if he is serious, well, I'll take it!! happily!!
And he was far too "angry". Last time he was "done", and...I think he was....he was sad--just crying and sad. Remember that Laura!!!
Sooo...Kat...I hope you'll respond...do you ever wish you were still on this roller coaster? How does it feel to be off??
