I will lay claim to the things I did, but our problems are very petty. She just makes them out to be more than they are.?
Hi SSM, I am so sad to hear you say something like that. Please, I'm not trying to minimize your pain. I just ask you to consider that there may be legitmate concerns she may have, that she is not able to voice yet. And it may take her a long time to be able to. My H too, would say to me that our problems were petty; that I was making more out of things than there really were. The effect is to wear away at a woman's self-esteem and self-trust - they begin to even question their own judgement, knowing that their H does to such an extent. Maybe that's why it's so hard for her to speak up - I know it was in my situation. It took me a long time (and am still working at it) before I could even understand myself what the real issues were and feel they were valid, let alone have the courage to approach my H with it.
Again, I am sorry if this is coming across as confrontational - like I said I sure don't mean to minimize your pain. Your comment just struck me as familiar and thought I'd share in case it helped.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
