You just decide, I don't want to be responsible or feel like I killed your relationship. Your are a gentle soul. People like you in my opinion are the ones that take it and take it and then finally quit. There is no getting back. He will have no chance after you get sick of this long enough. I think it is almost an injustice to him not to let him know what you are thinking. I am not like you. My wife is more like you. She took and took until she was so fed up that it was had to reconcil, to much hurt. She told me yesterday that she wants to make it work. God, I hope so. I am going to change my ways and keep on changing. Why, because of the fear of losing my family. I am a man and I am a man's man. I took no crap from my wife. This has been a very humbling experince. It sounds like a similar situation. It may not be. That is why you must decide what to do. But I see your type all the time, you set back and hurt and hurt for years before you get up the courage to do something about it and then it is to late for the marriage because your mind is made up. It is not a bad quality. To this point all my serious girlfriends have been like you. You will reach your breaking point and there is no amount of changing that he can do because you are broken, you are done. Give him a chance to change. That is my advice.
