It's almost like a contest QS... Like she is trying to cheat and you are trying to stop her.
You know that even if she does eventually cheat that SHE's the one who loses beause she's turned herself into a "2$ whore" as you put it earlier.
That battle is already won on your end. It isnt' important. The battle YOU need to win is NOT CARING if she does. You need to be able to look in the mirror and say
"I deserve better than this. If SHE resorts to THAT LEVEL of disrespect then she doesnt' deserve me"
I am sure there are at least a dozen women in your area who would NOT resort to this sort of thing in a crisis...
That's the MOST IMPORTANT thing in a mate QS, it isn't how big her boobs are or how wild she gets in bed... It's how mature they are in a crisis that's most important.
In this respect your wife's probably looking pretty ugly right now.
You need to be in a place emotionally where you can say "I am ok with things going etiher way... I will be fine"
Once I DID that, thats when my wife actually started to turn around...
