I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

So what's others' experiences with the whole protection phase? Once you have stopped all contact and set that boundary to the WAS, how long does it usually take till they start to see the impact of the loss and the lack of attachment to you? I guess I just want to get a truthful picture of this, does it take weeks, months? My WH is so stubborn and so trying to prove he made a good decision that I feel like even if he feels he is losing me that he'll never be the one to crack under the pressure. I read again Penny's book last night and that part about affairs being a love triangle with both women playing a role is very helpful; I can clearly see he wanted me to keep playing the domestic/home-related/stability-related best friend in his life, so I would THINK that my ceasing to be any of those things for him would make him pause, but like I say he is stubborn beyond belief right now. Anyway I'm just trying to get a sense of how long it can take for the WH to really feel the impact of me being in protection phase.