Thanks for helping keep on the straight and narrow, gals! Tit for tat is what that conversation was, thanks Red for seeing it. G, yeah I don't always know what to think about WH's 'script' - sometimes I think it's a mixture of lies and truths and halftruths, dunno. NM, that's what they keep telling me...some involvement is important and as the Mother I should do my best to include WH no matter what he's done to me... not only is it hard to do when you are hurt and angry, it just seems pathetic to have to enable 'drop in/drop out' fathers. But it seems the research says it IS better than nothing!
WH came over tonight and together, he and I named the little Tasmanian Devil ! Yay! Finally, bub has a name! I feel I made the right decision to chose it with WH (in spite of everything the rotter is doing, ugh) and that her name didn't not get enmeshed in our politics. He stayed for a few hours, mostly we hung out in my room, played with baby, went for a brief walk and posted the name documents, looked at more photos.. There were a couple of the birth itself that accidently came up on screen - I don't know who was more freaked, him or I. I think it was me!!! (WH didn't want to come to the birth because he didn't want to be in an "intimate space" with me, the a$$!). He also offered to photoshop some for me, and has a file on his computer of shots he wants to give me.
To be honest gals, apart from the name breakthrough, it was a rather boring night. Given we can't talk about anything outside the baby (because I am likely to hurl something at him), it's dull. But AT LEAST it was 100% peaceful with not a cross word spoken.
WH just sent me a text saying "Thank you, wife".
I texted back C U tomorrow.
WH is accompanying me to the hospital tomorrow for an important baby checkup.
NM, that's what they keep telling me...some involvement is important and as the Mother I should do my best to include WH no matter what he's done to me... not only is it hard to do when you are hurt and angry, it just seems pathetic to have to enable 'drop in/drop out' fathers. But it seems the research says it IS better than nothing! 
