21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[sandi2]

I'm not talking about beatings or any abuse. I know one really neat couple where the mother had a wooden spoon (like used for cooking)and she had painted it and put a name on it. She used this one item when she had to "paddle" her child. She could carry this spoon in her purse when she went to visit family, etc. They came to our house and the little girl stated to get a bit roudy, but not bad at all. The mother very calmly pulled the spoon out of her purse and laid it beside her. That's all she had to do, but the child instantly started to listen and obey. The child had perfect manners. I knew she was not "overly" spanked, but this was the parent's way of enforcing the discipline if the child did not obey the words.

I just wanted to make sure you understood that I was not endorsing physical abuse. I can see how you would feel the way you do after you were treated so badly,but your son probably feels the same way by his twin sister....except his is emotional cr@p beatings from her.

I would recommend Dr. James Dobson's book regarding anything about raising children. He is number one in my bood.