You know I wondered what happened to you. Glad to see that you are back.
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But she'll turn the the D papers ... wanting me to sign ... pushing to get this done ... acting though giving this to her would be like Christmas Day. Then I can't stand to be around her. I can't stand to be in her presence.
If she can still push these buttons of yours then you have not detached enough.
I will say this re: your refusal to sign the D papers.
Unconditional love - the ability to let something go in love. to let it go and to leave it in God's hands. Think about this for a bit.
Control - more often than not we want what we want. God or no God we just want it. Think about this for a bit.
Look CH - I'm not trying to tell you want to do - really I am not. I just want you to consider a few things.
She seems to want out of the R. This tells me that in her mind it is over for her. The old M is done. You are trying to hold on to the old M. You feel that the old M was not that bad. Right?
Have you considered that you may have a better chance at reconciliation IF you did not fight her the whole step of the way? I mean i have heard of people remarrying the person that they divorced. So what am I really saying here is.....
Let go and let God. The more you fight it the more CONTROL SHE feels you have over HER. The more you fight the D the more she feels like you DO NOT love her unconditionally. So...IMO -stop fighting her on the D. Give her what she so desires...and then....make the changes in YOU to win her back. She will respect that you understood her positions and although you did not agree with the D - you gave it to her because you finally understood what it meant to HER.
We all claim to love our S - yet we love them with strings attached - cut the string and try loving her unconditionally.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
