I am glad that you are sticking it out. Right now you do not need to worry about the statistics or the guarantee that you (and everyone else for that matter) are looking for. Yes he might meet a honey, he might meet 15 honey's - that is one way to look at it. OR he might come out of this, he might realize the wonderful woman that is his W, he might just come home a changed and better man. Don't focus on the "might" or "maybe" focus on YOU.
Tay - your goals should be to become whatever you want to be in your life. If your goal is to save your M - then listen to the advice that you are getting here. Listen closely...
Take it one day at a time. If need be one minute at a time. Try as hard as you can to remain calm and in peace. It is the peace that you have that just may draw him back.
As scripture would say...in God's time. Not ours. His.
As for my sitch - yes my W has filed. Does that mean I am defeated. NO Freaking way. Has the fat lady sang? I haven't heard her yet. Does this mean that my M is over? Well...to be honest with you the old M had to die. It was dead. That does not mean that a new M cannot be formed. A new R between two people who are healed, who are sure of WHO THEY ARE. If this new R is between me and my W - GREAT. If it is not = GREAT. Either way...I know who I am.
Tay - I was a wreak when I arrive...I did the work...(I'm still doing it)...and now I move forward with my life a changed man...a better man...You Tay can become better - I know you can and you will get through this. Don't rush...be still...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
