She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

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tbart I'm not sure what state you live in, but here in NY there are two terms for custody. One is legal custody and the other is physical custody. Most often joint custody is awarded for legal custody. That's the decision making process for different issues regarding the children - both parents have to come to an agreement on these things before they can be done. The other custody is physical custody. That's the one which is visitation and dictates who pays child support to the other party.

Did you get any overnights during the week with your D's? I'm fighting for actual 50/50 physical custody, or close to it. After the psych evaluation, the rotation the psychologist suggested as a guideline basically gave me a little over 40% during the school year and 50% during the summer and all their school breaks.

I was just wondering if you're giving her too much in the physical custody department. Also, in NY a 15 year old has a lot of power in deciding who she wants to live with, how often they want to see each parent, etc...

I know it really sucks man. But I just want to make sure you don't make a mistake I nearly made early in this separation/divorce process. I almost rolled over and gave her what she wanted in the hopes of not rocking the boat and killing any last chance of reconciliation.

I'm glad I listened to the family and friends I have who slammed me with 2x4's and woke me up to fight for myself and my rights concerning my children.