Hey Burt... thanks so much! A work in progress....
Maple, some really good signs happening there for you... go with it, let it be what it is. Showing and feeling remorse on the part of the WAS is so important in moving forward. Don't rescue him from it either! Let him feel it, listen and validate but don't rescue. You are doing great!
Today is just one of those days I feel like throwing in the towel. Just when I thought I was getting a handle on the waterworks...the tears start coming back a few times a day.
I can feel the tension/frustration building on both my side and H's.
Maybe we need to release some of the tension in the bedroom.
Hey Maple... hope your rollercoaster ride is on an upswing since you last posted. It just goes like that.. up, down, up, down.... I'm just allowing the ride now. And, trying to longer see the down times as "bad" but more as opportunities to learn and grow together. ((Hugs))
Just wondering how long do couples continue with MC? I know everyone is different but in general... 6 months, 1 year, 2 years?? We have been going for 7 months now. First 6 months, we went every 2 weeks and now we just started to go monthly. A month seems a long time, but after this next session, we will be paying out of pocket as we maxed out on our benefits.
It has been awhile since I have updated .... not too much to report. We are just plugging along with some ups and downs.
H and I had a terrific trip last month. Loved NYC. It was not as relaxed or romantic as I had hoped. H and I were go, go, go the whole time so I felt we did not make enough time for just us. However, the trip was revitalizing for me because I was away from the kids. It was the first time I had been away from both of them EVER. I missed them but didn't miss them.
H has a lot on his plate at the moment. Found out his dad passed away a couple of days after we got back from our trip. His parents split when he was really young and had no contact with his father at all. H is dealing with sadness, regret, grief, anger and little depression. H just took a cross country trip to meet his 79 yr old uncle for the first time. And his uncle and aunt were more than receptive to meet him and his sister. I am trying to be supportive, listen....I feel like I should be doing more but not sure what. He validated that I was doing everything just right in last MC session so that was good to hear.
I am trying to keep the girls busy this summer doing lots of fun stuff. I do tend to let household chores slide a bit in the summer but while H was away visiting his uncle, my dad and I did an awesome job fixing up the backyard garden.
Overall, the positives are outweighing the negatives and I am truly feeling that we are making it work.
A work in progress....
Just when I thought I was getting a handle on the waterworks...the tears start coming back a few times a day.