New here, not sure where to start

[ericmsant2]

ITay

I am popping in again just to answer YOUR question.

I am no longer standing for my WIFE. That is a decision that I made for ME. Is that to say that I am moving on to someone else. Is that to say that I am filing for a D. NO. It is to say that I am living my life for ME. If my W wants to join me in the future then hey let's go for it.

Am I a success. IMO - F yeah. Only because of who I became and who I aspire to be. No one can take this from me. No one. Am I perfect? No. Am I a flawed human being? Yep. Do i have fears? Yep. Do I have my own insecurities? Yep. DOES the actions of my Wife drive these feelings? Not anymore.

Tay - I made every DB mistake in the book. Every single one.

By my last count I think something like 20 people have posted to you to tell you to focus on you. To tell you to sit back and just GAL.

You admit your afraid, you admit you have insecurities. Can you admit that you are pissed off? Can you admit that your PRIDE may be getting in the way?

You yourself have said that your H was a good man for 20 years. You have said that you are in love with him and want to be with him. You have said so many positive things about your H.

Think about the positives of your H. I know you know he is sick. I know that this is hard. I know. You have seen other people in your sitch. Others who have given you great advice.

It does not make a difference who is standing or not standing. What matter is WHAT ITAYLOR wants. Do what you feel you need to do. Just make sure that you are not doing it in anger. It is all that I can tell you ITAY.

Eric