My game has changed from WAW to EA/PA HELP!!

[Greek]

You are doing the just right thing with all of this, CD...but I don't want to overlook the hurt that all of this reality is causing you and eventually Miss Calla.

Sorry.

But keep up the strong, smart work!
Greek

[CD Bear]

I know all about the hurt. The epain (and it's feeling a physical pain-chest pretty tight) plus the constant adrenaline-butterflies; the sense of loss and betrayal; and the regret that I wasn't "aware" enough to have prevented this by taking her "complaints" more seriously two years ago.

Ultimately, the self-loathing train stops with me. However, at no point did I quit on her or look outside the marriage nor risk emotional damage to my D or W by thinking divorce. I just failed to act on her words and my feelings that something wasn't right.

Empty.

I'll post her texts in a few minutes when D is in the bath.

Thanks for holding me up so far.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just a "for the record" prediction before you post the texts.

She will first attempt to say "you don't know anything," but then -- when you haven't responded to the first couple of texts -- she'll start to spin and position the trip as "just friends." Came to support me during this difficult time, couldn't afford two rooms, etc. Then (and this may even be in texts that haven't been sent yet, and/or vm messages that she will leave you), she will swing wildly between blind rage and then -- when that doesn't work to get a reaction out of you -- a sudden sweet-talking and surge of seeming respect.

2nd choice is she cops to the whole thing, but justifies it with a blanket "I decided our marriage was 'done' a long time ago, so I don't regret this at all," etc., etc.

Just guesses.

Puppy

[CD Bear]

OK. I'm gonna quickly read 'em and type 'em.

I REALLY don't want them to get under my skin so I'll need some diffusion pretty quickly

"I am more than welcome in our house. Calla has nothing to do with our divorce. She gets everything she needs and deserves from me. I will be home on Sunday and you are more than welcome to talk to me then"

That's it. just one.
Hmm.

[CD Bear]

Looks like a lot of the second choice, Puppy. Her reaction was better than mine.

Very calm and collected.

I'm guessing coached. Or this is the logic she worked out (quite well said).

Damn. But that is just the appearance.

She using divorce (that hasn't started officially other than the word being mentioned) as her excuse.

She thinks that me knowing is where I stop. I just started exposing.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just one text so far?

Give her time. I'm thinking she's only sending one because that's all she thinks she NEEDS to send, and you'll cave. Stay dark tonite and tomorrow morning, and she'll try something else.

Puppy

[Quicksilver264]

RAIN DOWN HELL DUDE. RAIN DOWN HELL.

She called down the Thunder, now you make it rain HELL.

WARNING: This is going to be brutal, awful, and horrifying.

It will take EVERYTHING you have to get through it.

But you CAN survive it, and it WILL give you the needed strength and experience to deal with OTHER issues down the road.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

That's it. just one.
Hmm.

I thought you said she sent four??

[CD Bear]

She's counting on an argument; a retaliation; a spill the beans. Not gonna happen. I know she is either consumed with rage and revenge.(and likely "hate-f#$king" him. Brutal I know. Or, she is completely at ease with it as she has twisted it so well in her mind that it just washes off.

We'll see if more stuff comes later.

Thoughts, impressions?

[CD Bear]

It vibrated a bunch of times but when I went on a friend was also looking for an update. It must have been him.

Unless you can recall BBerry Mrngr but I don't know about it.

Though the home phone just rang with "Private"