well mr pinhead, i think you have the right idea, now the trouble is sticking to your revelations. This recon thing is not easy as you have the same players that say they may have changed but have they really. We have a total recon in that we didnt go through with the legal sep, she is at my house and we r living as a family but the same patterns are rearing. She wants lots of facebook time and the intimacy seems forced. Keep doing what u are doing pin because in the end even recon may not work and u may have to move on.

the key phrase for me is that u deserve someone that desires you for real.

it may take time to rekindle that with your wife, if not. you have to make choices, Can i live with a form of desire or do u need the real thing.

BITS
M-46
W-42
M-16y
T-19 y
s10 s15
BombDec.19/09
Sep-F16/10
Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10
Recon July 5/10
PA foundOut- Oct 30/10
Mental HospNov/10
moved out Nov/10
Leg Sep Mar 15/11