Still trying to find my way

[Swiss Miss]

The setting them free thread helped me let go of my WH the last little bit, and reading about how badly your H is pestering you about D paperwork made me think of it for your situation. All the Dobson talk finally led me to check out the Focus on the Family website and read exactly what he says (did not want to buy the book!).

Here is the link:

http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/divorce_and_infidelity/love_must_be_tough.aspx

I know it's hard, but but if you can do this it will at least help you. As soon as I accepted the situation and let H go, I moved on emotionally and really started to make a new life for myself. And my life looks really attractive to him, just like yours will compared to a harping OW who tricked him into staying with her by getting pregnant (how do men not see this stuff coming?).

Hard as it is to accept, the fact that both you and I are still legally married doesn't mean our sons are living in intact homes. And it will throw your H for a huge loop, I don't think you could do a bigger 180.

This will be hard to do if you're not ready, but I think if I'd read the info in that link it would have helped me be ready earlier. Your H is trapped on all sides, by you resisting the D and by OW and the pregnancy, so it seems that if someone let him go they'd start looking pretty attractive.

I am so sorry that you and your son have to go through this, and it was beyond low of your H to suggest OW coming to the counseling sessions.