When I talked to H about visitation tonight I gave him two choices: 1) He could take her overnight IF he gave me a copy of lease or other documentation about whose name the apt. is under; 2) He could take her for a evening visit with a signed paper saying he would not expose dd to OW and would have her back at 9pm.
He was trying for 1 so hard . . . every excuse under the sun why 1 hour wasn't enough to produce lease (convoluted story about him subletting from a male friend . . . uh huh). I even said I'd let him take dd overnight if he signed that the apt. was NOT held under his name or OW's name . . . he wouldn't do it. Hmmm . . . wonder why! So he picked option 2 and signed my paper.
He will not be taking her overnight again until he produces documentation of whose name is on the apt. he is living in . . . my L supports this decision and thinks its reasonable.
Meanwhile, my dd has been asking a lot of ?s about OW and my H "Mommy are you sad that daddy has a GF and you don't have a BF?" I think I blew it and answered them too truthfully . . . said I was sad because I love her daddy. Told her that her daddy and I both love her very much. She asked if I like OW and I answered honestly "no" and when asked "why" I said "because I don't think she's a very nice person." Probably should have just evaded - assumed H had been feeding her info . . .
Meanwhile, the heavens sent me some luck - ran into a guy at my H's apt. complex last night while I was seeing my friend. Randomly confided and he gave me intel. Incredibly, I ran into him in the grocery store again today and he gave me more intel . . . and offered his phone number in case I need it. Apparantely lives a floor down from my H!
