Exactly... so much for his sudden maturity... it was a trick... they always try to trick you... It takes MONTHS to end an affair even once they start to consider doing so... its not a light switch... its like any other addiction... EVer known anyone who tried to quit smoking?
Ya they quit, they quit like a dozen times didn't they?
Make sure your MIL konws about his little scheme for the weekend
Exactly... so much for his sudden maturity... it was a trick... they always try to trick you... It takes MONTHS to end an affair even once they start to consider doing so... its not a light switch... its like any other addiction... EVer known anyone who tried to quit smoking?
Ya they quit, they quit like a dozen times didn't they?
Make sure your MIL konws about his little scheme for the weekend
Your posts are great. I'm kind of in similar situation to EC. My H thinks it's ok for him to talk to me about his A, and even expects sympathy for him now that OW has broken up with him.
M 39 H 41 T9 M6 EA found Dec 09 Separated Apr to Jun 10 Currently in house separation
xin, you can't trust his testimony anyways. I would suggest you tell him to keep it to himself and you monitor his actions... He's likley lying to you.
Have you to setup any arrnagements to ENSURE that OW and your H don't get back together again? Just cause she dumped him doens't mean she won't start up again at sometime.
If your H wants back IN the rel the first thing he has to do is change his cell number and start providing you with all his online accounts and phone passwords etc... so you BOTH FULY SHARE all routes she can use to contact him... email etc.
Unfortunately my H is not giving any indication that he wants to work on our M. AFter trying to get me to move out of our place several times, he said I could stay as long as i want on the day OW broke up with him. I'm using the opportunity to DB and hope he might change his mind. But i'm happy to report i'm at the point where I could move forward without him as well.
In fact, it's much easier forme to move on than to hang around as I feel i'm being used by him to get over his A! For example on the night that OW broke up with him, he asked me to go for a drive with him and also asked for sex. I'm ashamed to say I had agreed to both.
The main reason I'm hanging around is to honour my marriage vow -i.e in good times and bad times. I also feel that I need to give it my all so that I would never look back with regret. Am I making sense?
M 39 H 41 T9 M6 EA found Dec 09 Separated Apr to Jun 10 Currently in house separation
