Hi LL, You never will feel 100% sure the OW is not hiding behind the bushes, it is still in the back of my mind but it is very faint now. I really like your quote at the end of the post about not throwing the whole relationship away because it is damaged. I remember the first year back together OW called I was devestated I couldn't believe it we had been back in relationship for 6 months. I realized that when I decided to take him back I would have lots of debris that would need to be cleared up. I said to him the next morning why do you think you have to keep this person hanging on. Are you afraid I am going to get rid of you. I'm not I love you I want you to be apart of the family IM NOT GOING ANYWHERE. H said this is my home this is were I want to be. I think these MLC'ers are afraid to be alone for even a second. Keep DBing you obviously are good at that you got him home. If he didn't want to be there he wouldn't be. Your job is easy all you have to do is DB when you are relating to him and just enjoy your like. Just my thoughts Take care Loretta
