H came home at 9:30 pm with a story about how busy he was. He went to bed immediately and did not have dinner (he had only had a hamburger at noon). I thought I smelled alcohol in his breath but it could be anything... my old reliable sense of smell is missing in action. Anyway, I was cheery and acted 'as if'
At midnight we got a call from a 'private caller' He did not answer. A few seconds later he gets a page 'from work.' He answers and talks to someone apparently but when he goes to the closet to get dressed I press re-dial and the number he had dialed is his pager's answering system.
I asked him where he had called and he said 'the answering system' (but he had faked a work-related conversation). I let it be.
I had apologized for the TG mess, much on the lines of my prior post, but he did not say anything and changed the topic. I let it be.
Then neither him nor I were sleepy, so he proposed we watched a DVD. I proposed an alternate , and we did . Then we started to watch the movie (Terminator 3).
Towards the end he gets another page and goes to the bathroom to answer. Then he gets dressed and says he is going to work, he has an emergency in such place and he'll follow through so that he is done early. He kisses me and goes (I made sure his ring was on this time). But on re-dial this time the phone number he dialed is for another place, not the one he is supposed to be going...
He has just called from the other place he's supposed to be at... not the last one he called...
I guess my intuition of something not right was working after all
Why on earth would he not let me alone if he wants to be with OW? He can have his D any day!@!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
I am not completely up to date with your sitch. I also struggle with the lying!! It is so hard to deal with. My H is also always late too.
When I try really hard and think positively I say: I will not own what H is doing. If/when he is lying he has to deal with those consequences eventually and I will not let myself get down. H does not deserve to have that kind of negative effect on me!!!!
God is watching H, so I do not have to. The snooping is the killer. Just pray alot and vent here. That is what helps me. My goal is to be in the best physical shape I can be. Mentally and emotionally I continue to be the best I can. Focus on the kids and stay busy!!
are you assuming these calls and his going off to work were about ow?
is there no possibility that the other number and other place were another co worker or work related person who was then headed to the place he did ended up going and called you from?
of course sure he could have just taken off to go be with ow but as you say..what really would be the point in that?
I am probably assuming... but I am so tired of lies...
I do not see why would he go to another room to call when he could have stayed where he was (I was not asleep). And why make up a conversation with a machine (he called his answering service before)...
And when he called me he could have turned and gone somewhere else. He asked if he could continue work from there in the same tone he used to tell me he was going out for a weekend 'if I did not have anything against it' (when he was going with OW...)
And I tried to call him and he did not answer back...
What is the point of all this crap?
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
why let it haunt you? why not just live your life and do your best to act as if h has itchy butt or something when these episodes occur..after all we are just assuming that it has something to do with ow when it might not? and heck even if it does considering it a case of itchy butt is going to get you in a better place than if you sit and ponder the why's and what's of the sit.
Quote: Quoting LL's post from my first thread ever:
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Quote: As to the other question: no. I will not live or submit my dtr to living with a three way R.
then you have to decide how long you will wait for her to be gone...
LL
ok then how long are you able to wait until she's gone and what does gone mean?
does gone mean they are no longer involved physically? cause remember we are just assuming that is who was on the phone right?
does gone mean she no longer works for him? we know that may take some time (and I'm with ya on that one..as far as I know ow is still a customer of h's despite my demands that she not be)
and what if all this worry about ow isn't warrented? just as we have the ability to get lost in assumptions about things being neg we can allow ourselves to see the posibility of it just being something else.
, and we did 
. Then we started to watch the movie (Terminator 3).
