What Michelle said, 100%. My counselor has come to the same conclusion in my case. My ex is not looking for something 'better', he is looking for something/someone who will play his little sex games and take the small pieces of himself that he wants to give away while he holds the rest back. That is definitely not someone "better" than me. And Gabe is not trolling for someone 'better' than you, either.
However you can always give him these conditions and watch him grow. Sounds like he is already taking some steps, deleting facebook, coming and apologizing to you a couple of weeks ago (when you were in bed, had taken the sleeping pill, and he came in crying), etc.
I think these men (and women in some cases) should be able to 'man up' on their own, but some of them seem to have no clue how it's done. Maybe your boundaries will help him get on the right track.
