Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[DaddyLongShanks]

Puppy do you have your story or plan posted somewhere? I am interested in what you did after the exposure.

You can find them all here:

Chocolateeyes' Old Threads

I discovered my wife's affair in May of 2007, exposed in late May/early June, and we reconciled in late August.

Hope that helps.

Puppy

Late August on 2007? Or 2010?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

All 2007. Her affair lasted 3 months.

[DaddyLongShanks]

No bad behaviors to fight through after it? Usually the affair involves a power swing.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Not sure I understand the question, but everything is in my threads. Last week of August 2007 and Sept. 2007 would be where you want to look.

[Allen A]

Off topic Pup.. two questions :

1. Does your wife log on here and read any of your posts?
2. Is she comfortable with you being on here and offering advice etc?

The thing is, I can see a lot of WS in the reconcilliation phase NOT wanting their spouse (mine included) visiting here raging away about an affair that she had ended... It suggests that there was no forgiveness...

I know, I am not agreeing with the position, I am just wondering how your wife feels about the db forum and your extended discussions here about her affair...?

[Quicksilver264]

All the dates on those posts are from Feb 2008. Are they from a forum backup or something?

I didn't see any from August or Sept 2007.

[Seeing Red]

Hey Puppy -

Just read your threat from 9/2/07 - WOW! Thanks for sharing.

Can't believe how long you fought for your marriage and all the twists and turns it took. A lot of men would have been l-o-n-g gone by the 1st George W. Administration. That you stayed AND endured an affair speaks volumes about your character.

You're amazing!

I once worked with an older woman whose son contracted polio c. 1947 and was put in an iron lung. J said she and her husband went to the hospital every day to see him, and J would often pull the princess card and yell at the doctor in front of everyone in the waiting room for not doing more for her son.

Meanwhile, there was a dignified young woman there every day by herself. When J decided to speak to her one day, she learned the woman had lost her husband in WWII and that ALL 4 of her sons, ages 6-12, were in iron lungs. J said she shut her mouth after that never yelled at the doctor again.

That's kind of how I feel when I see stories like yours or Piano's or NewMama's - as bad as I think I've got it, it could ALWAYS be worse.

Thanks for digging into your past and serving me some humble pie.

[Seeing Red]

His story starts in 2004, QS, but here's the thread he's talking about:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1185933&page=1

[Quicksilver264]

Wow puppy that seems GOD AWFUL. Just horrible.

I am praying for a miracle too. I said that to her Mom. And then I find out her mom tells MY WIFE I said that, and then my wife said in another message "WTF? He's soooo clueless!".

That is what set me off today. Having trust violated like that, and being made fun of.

But after continuing that home improvement project, I feel much better. I am keeping my promises, and I can build on that.

I am DEFINITELY not going to be in the house Friday.

I may be at a neighbors who knows the situation; where I can still log onto my home wireless and watch what she does.

But I will definitely not be around to have that ultimatum thrown at me. She actually said that in a message "I gave him an ultimatum..."

Blank that. She hires a realtor and wants to buy a condo with her half the equity in our house? No Sir. Homey isn't going to allow that. She is going to have to get an apartment until the D is final, and her parents will eventually get tired of giving her money.

THEN, when she needs money for a down payment and closing costs, she ain't gonna have nowhere else to get it. That well will have been dry and sucked up by her apartment.

I am ready to play hardball. Thing is, after she moves out the finances will totally kill me. I will only be able to keep the house until the D is final, and if it doesn't sell quickly, I will be forced to by the court.

This is a Hella big time stakes poker game here. And I am about to raise, go all in, and then call.

Allen, I am taking your advice here. I want some RESPECT. But that respect might cost me a hell of alot.

I am REALLY hoping the fog of the affair will have started to lift. Her seeing that text from him, realizing she got played when she was really hung up on him, and having to get an apartment just might do it. I HOPE AND PRAY.

[Allen A]

How did you find out her mother passed on what you told her?