New here, not sure where to start

[irishblessings]

Jack -
I love this: Come a day you'll realize I'm a success not because I'm married, but because of who I am who I became. Become your own success story, become your own hero.

ltaylor -
I think YOU (there I go again:)) have to answer this question on your own. I stay because I believe in the vows I took. I have a hard time defining "better or worse" - my H however can and will define those terms differently - that's his right. For me, he will have to make the move to D. It won't be me - and from this point forward - I am going to try as hard as I can to operate with quiet dignity, self-esteem, and common courtesy. I am not going to lose it with him or give him ANY ammunition. This is my life too - and who I am is loyal to a fault sometimes - but it is what I am comfortable with.

Take the time to find out what you are comfortable with - are you comfortable with giving up? If so, NO ONE would fault you. If not, then figure out what it will take for you to get through this time. It won't be quick but I am praying that it will open up a much better place in this world for me - with or without my H.

Keep posting - keep asking!