I understand you wanting privacy but if you can tell us what state you are in that would be very helpful.
None of this makes any sense IMO. You are either not understanding what your attny is telling you or your attny doesn't know what he is talking about.
Unless your rings are in the million dollar range all of this seems a bit out there.
If your H's attny is not complying with the terms and conditions set forth by the legal procedure of your state then I do think (based on not knowing what state you are in) some sort of judicial intervention can be instated.
Legal paperwork and meetings can be overwhelming. Are you sure you are understanding this all correctly?
