he wanted this to be quick. yet, it seems like my l is prepared with all of my stuff and his l is not sending over complete information. the law does say that pre-marriage stuff is excluded and belongs to me. this is a basic part of divorce law. my l knew that. his l should have known that but kept all of this stuff on with no evidence and no proof. all this back and forth, it's just costing both sides a lot of money. i'm okay if he wants out but how is helping us?
the line in the draft statement that put me over the edge was that if i were to include the rings on my statement, it would increase my net worth and then i would have to pay h 10x more than what i owe him without the rings on my statement. why is this even a consideration when initially, they told me the jewellery was not part of the agreement. gifts given to me were mine.
a big part of my frustration is that i don't know what to believe or who to believe anymore. one day a gift is mine. the next day, i may have to pay for what was a 'gift' to me. i am afraid because now i do feel alone. who do i trust?
the "money hungry" statement is really just my way of trying to stop a game i don't want to play because i am afraid of the next wave of emotional toll it will take on me. it's like saying "stop, the target you want is not me. it's the other guy." and hoping that this would stop what i fear which is a legal fight. divert his attention to something else but i can't avoid it.
it is going down a cheeseless tunnel because no matter how many times i say it, it doesn't change a thing.
