Grace/Brooklyn - thanks for the advice on the kids. You are right - I need to step back and let it be theirs.
I hope I can find some better strategies not for those down days - I don't want to backslide - but I know perfection isn't possible either - so I need to use good days to figure plan of action.
Today has been interesting because H talked to me about some things he is concerned about re: S. It's funny how with a flip of a switch life turns on a dime. H is a school counselor and he has seen and counseled kids time after time whose parents have gotten D. He would always come home and talk about the damage. Now in terms of his own S - he's more of a "he'll come around in time" / another example of not the same man. I have remained polite, positive, a listener - so I'm proud of myself there. H has lost shine in his eyes -
On another note - the topic of today's Dr. Harley's Marriage Builders newsletter was "What is Sexual Addiction?" It seems so weird that not too long ago no one was talking about it - now it's everywhere! If you haven't been on Marriage Builders or Marriage Vine websites - they are helpful for standers (according to this newbie:))
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
