You're right Puppy, I needed to hear that. I guess the thing that just confuses me to death is that he fluctuates between coming off as pompous or condescending in an email to me or like the one above, and then another day I'll get a very sincere email that says things like "don't blame yourself", "I was to blame", "I was programmed to fail from a young age and I'm shocked I held it together as long as I did", and "it was never about the OW, I was breaking away from our relationship before I ever even knew her name." He has also said that even if he wasn't with her he wouldn't be with me. I guess those last 2 statements make me think that any attempt I make to save this marriage is completely useless. Or do addicted people say those things too?
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
