(((Opt))) Hope you had a great dinner and that things calmed down a bit for you. I think that using I can only control myself, I can't control him as a mantra is a terrific idea! And no 2x4's ...you are human, it's a holiday, and you are stressed....and with previous experiences popping up in your memory bank...rightfully so....but you can let go and let God...any time you want. It's also ok to start your whole day over...just shake it off and decide to have a great day from right that moment for the rest of the day. We are all perfectly imperfect, Opt...so ease up on yourself... hugs....Col
