Irish, I am reading your thread now. It is very smiliar to mine. Unfortunately so many of us are in the same boat. I wonder what the stats/averages are for the length of time a LBS has stayed and also the stat for how many of them actually get back into a better R/M with that same spouse. It doesn't sound like the likleyhood is very good from most of the stories I have read here. I know there is a section for success stories. Maybe i should read a few of those to give me some hope..cuz I'm not feeling any right now.