new information from W : NOW WHAT, pro's please .

[cesco]

Well, its been awhile since I posted. I have been viewing and making comments on posts but not update my own situation.

Here it is in a nutshell!.

As of 10:30 am this morning I am now separated.
W will be moving out on July 30th and our current home up for sale. No takers yet, slow market. Hopefully it will go.

We told the kids about a month ago and they are hurt..

I am not gonna lie, but it is extremly dissapointing.
Upwards and onwards I guess.
As you have all mentioned, I need to let go. This is what is happening now.

We came to this conclusion and I listened to her and validated that if this is what she wants then we need to proceed.

Its been very tough for me as I see my D10 really hurt by this. She just isnt herself right now.
I took the kids with me to Cancun for 1 week and kids had a great time. FOr me, ups and downs. I know I need to get over this. I guess in time it will happen.
For now, this day has been the hardest day of my life. Even when my father died I didnt feel so bad.

I will let go, try to GAL more.

Question for you all..
My W purchased within 10 minutes from me. She tells me that once she moves in she would like to be able to drop the kids off at my place while she goes to work becasue all of the kids friends are here.
At first I said I guess so as I dont want to hurt them as this is overwhelming in itself. Now, I think its not the best plan. In my mind she didnt ask or consult us in her decision to break up the family the way she is doing. I am saying no to her and not the children.. Your thoughts

This has been a very emmotional time. I have made lots of mistakes. I guess once she moves out that possibly the healing will begin for both of us.