Hello all, and hi Puppy. I've seen your name around and know that you are a vet; thanks for dropping by!
So I did a bit more editing, and this is what I just sent out:
Hi,
Thanks for coming over last night. I think that maybe you wanted to make sure that I was ‘okay’ after Monday night; if so, thanks. I feel that something needs to be said for communication's sake. So, this is how I see things:
Me: I want us to try to work on a relationship at some point in the future. No rush, no instant living together, nothing like that. But a chance at relationship restoration.
You: You said that you want us to be friends only. It seems like you want to drop in on Daughter and me at times to hang out and share/ talk about some things.
As I think you can tell, this arrangement isn’t the easiest for me. Nothing much has changed since January. You're saying the same thing, and so am I. I won't be friends with you like I think you want to be—divorced, but friends like when we were married. To me, we're either civilly co-parenting Daughter or trying to make "us" work. And to me, civil co-parenting does not involve friendship. It’s tricky, figuring the difference between civility and friendship for us. But I'm trying to figure it out.
So, to further the co-parenting idea, the schedule. I know we’ve talked about this in person, but I wanted to get it in writing.
Visitation times:
Sunday 2-6 Tuesday 8-9:30ish Thursday 8-9:30ish
I hope to join a workout class on Tues/Thurs that will cover those times, but we’ll see if I can make that happen!
Like yesterday, I’m open to calling if you want to drop by, so that works, too.
See you on Thursday.
M
Ps-- This email is peppered with “I think”s, I know. It’s just that we haven’t talked fully openly, so I do just ‘think’ things!
I know that I'm not asking for a final revision, but I think it's pretty close to what was said here! Wordier, though. :p
Thanks for your help, guys. And Puppy, thanks for pushing me to send it. I was going to let it go, but it is something that probably needs to be said.
