In all of this what really sucks is thst she seems to be going to come out on top. She makes more than me and could afford to BUY a condo if we sold the house. I'd have to rent a crappy apt.
She has this huge outpouring of support from everyone. And I look like the bad guy. She stays so outwardly positive that it is hard to imagine she's hurting as bad as everyone says. Anytime she feels bad she calls someone.
You guys are right. I am too reactionary. I have no idea how to let go of the fear of things turning out better for her than me. I didn't choose this yet it feels like she wins no matter what. And she does it all with a smile on her face.
QS,
You need to have fun right now. Your main priority today is taking care of yourself and that will involve having fun, you will look better. Stay in the gym.
Do some bachelor fun activities. Make a whole day all about you and treating yourself. Go buy some new clothes, shoes and go out in them, see and be with females, etc, etc. You know what to do, just do it. Be that attractive man as its your best opportunity to get her back.
Also as you well know you can't push her or do whats logical. You know she's slightly out of her mind, nothing you are going to do to change it. You have to be the 'catnip' like they are saying here. You have to be that thing that she has to have and she's ocming to get it.
