And bottom line--I really feel I'm worth more than this. Sometimes I think the MLC tag is just an excuse to screw around with other people. and that's not right. He said "for better or worse", too. Shouldn't you hold people accountable for their actions? Whether they are temporarily insane or not?
MLC is up to you to determine if your husband is in it or not.
Up to you to determine if you believe in it.
IF you determine that he is not in MLC...or that you don't believe it exists...then our advice isn't going to be for you.
I know it is not fair. And whoever told you life would be fair...well they lied to you. You should be mad at them.
Should people be held accountable for their actions? AB-sol-f-ing-lute-ly!
When they are capable of being accoutnable for their actions.
The MLCer who comes back without ANY remorse or regret, I wouldn't trust at all.
But expecting a person to be accountable when they do not give a crap? ... What are you hoping to achieve?
You want him to realize he is hurting you and for him to stop it. He knows he is hurting you...is he stopping it?
Telling him about the website proves you are snooping, and he will just be sneakier...I AM actually all for gathering of intelligence...saying do not snoop to newcomers is like screaming at the trees to stop growing. I just do not think most people are capable of confronting the MLCer without emotion...and emotion is what gets the LBSer into trouble.
Pick yourself up, dust off and cowgirl up.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
