Think I am dead now.

[MrBond]

That's fine if that's what you ultimately want. Maybe write a list of the things you would like to see changed in your relationship with her (such as no drugs, rehab, couples counceling, etc.) and tuck it away somewhere for the future.

Show her that you are there for her for support BUT you will not enable her behavior. Continue to get yourself healthy and happy and MAYBE she'll follow you because she wants that for herself as well.

I wouldn't say totally cut off all communication. Be there as a friend would be. No sending money. No last minute rescues unless she was in serious danger. And you can't do that until you get your own head on straight. Be the leader not the lead.